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=== [[Korean War]] ===
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I have been editing this article for a few days. I ran down through the article and fixed any grammer mistakes I could find. I would appreciate any suggestions on what to do and how I can really improve it further. Thanks a lot. [[User:Mr. Killigan|Mr. Killigan]] 06:17, 12 July 2007 (UTC)
'''Romantic Love''' is a form of [[human sexual behavior|sexual]] [[love]] that attempts to either partly, or in some cases entirely, transcend mere needs driven by looks, [[lust|sexual desire]], or material and social gain. These things, however, play an ironic role both in its arousal and justification. Secondly, it not only is dispersed with and even inherently related to family life, but often is to some extent or entirely free. Largely in the intermittent sense but also as free the romantic is related to [[tradition]] and legend.
But romance is, or has become, the spirit of postmodernity, and its criteria include fashion and irony. Wit or irony ecompass the inherent instability of romance, fine-tuned to its late modern peculiarities.<ref>This phenomenon is expressed perhaps in popular culture as "throwing game." In Marxism the romantic might be considered an example of alienation.</ref> The conflict between romance's individuality and its framework of [[jealousy]] is dealt with by [[Rene Girard]]. In its independent mode it tends to be a tragic region lying somewhere between on the one hand an ethical, and on the other hand an aesthetic (or possibly debauched) life, combining significance with [[ennui]].
==== Kirill Lokshin ====
Romantic love is contrasted with Platonic love which in all usages precludes sexual relations, yet only in the modern usage does it take on a fully [[asexual]] sense, rather than the classical sense in which sexual drives are sublimated. [[Sublimation]] tends to be forgotten in casual thought about love aside from its emergence in psychoanalysis and Nietzsche. (For an account of the way the modern usage of this term is distinguished from its original sense involving sublimation, see the article [[Platonic love]].) [[Unrequited]] love can be romantic, if only in a comic or tragic sense, or in the sense that sublimation itself is comparable to romance, where the spirituality of both art and egalitarian ideals is combined with strong character and emotions.<ref>Beethoven had successful relationships with women of the nobility and remained unmarried mainly because of his conflicts with noble society as a group. This is evidenced in his biography, such as in Maynard Solomon's account.</ref> Romantic love might be requited emotionally and physically while not being [[consummated]], to which one or both parties might agree.
There are a number of areas to work on, at this point; keep in mind, though, that this is a very high-profile article, so you should be careful to move slowly and carefully to avoid getting entangled in any editorial conflicts here.
==Romance and Value==
* <s>The article is, in my opinion, simply too long; we're looking at 72K (~12,000 words) of prose. The "Legacy" section, in particular, is ripe for splitting out into a separate [[Legacy of the Korean War]] article, with a much shorter summary left in the main one.</s>
* <s>"Korean War (1950 – 1953)" should really be something like "Course of the war"; you probably don't want to repeat the article title as a section heading.</s>
* The citations need cleanup; at a minimum, all of the embedded external links should be converted to footnotes. There are also a number of "citation needed" tags floating around. Beyond that, more thorough citation would be appropriate throughout the article; see [[WP:MILHIST#CITE]] for some guidelines.
* <s>The "Depictions" section should be turned into prose, rather than a laundry list of films; see also [[WP:MILHIST#POP]].</s>
* <s>The "Names" section, as it's presently constituted, would work much better as a narrow sidebar; it's of some interest, but I doubt there's enough material to sustain a separate section.</s>
* <s>The "See also" section should be eliminated. If something isn't worth linking from the text, it's generally not worth linking at all. </s>
* <s>The rump "Bibliography" section should be removed as well.</s>
* The "External links" section could use trimming.
Hope that helps! [[User:Kirill Lokshin|Kirill]] 04:08, 13 July 2007 (UTC)<s>cool</s>
::Thank you very much for offering your opinion! [[User:Mr. Killigan|Mr. Killigan]] 00:57, 14 July 2007 (UTC)
To the extent that it does not lead to procreation (or child-rearing, as it also might exist in [[same-sex marriage]]), romance is peripheral to society, though it may have virtues in the relief of [[stress]], in development and the strengthening of certain social relations. Procreation itself elicits questions about an ultimate purpose. Similarly, profound romance tends to inspire questions and reflection about physical relations, identity, and the meaning of intimacy. Sex, with spiritual love, in romance for its own sake, is one way in which spiritual love tends to be questioned, in so far as it can actually be mixed with the erotic and yet be ostensibly of intrinsic value. Moreover, any palpable aspect of the person can be cynically chalked up to appearance. Romance then, raises questions of [[nihilism]] such as "If I am attracted to the soul and the inner person, am I merely an aesthete of the spirit?"<ref>Given his analysis of hedonism and the aescetic ideal in The Genealogy of Morals, Nietzsche might find such a question as this amusing or ridiculous. Shakespeare raises a similar criticism about the ascetic ideal in Measure for Measure, in Isabella.</ref> It also sets up a rivalry between itself, marriage, and other forms of spirituality.<ref>Cf. the so-called "erotic ascent" in Plato's Symposium, and Kierkegaard's Either/Or, Stages on Life's Way, and other works in [[aesthetics]], religion and philosophy, and also the teachings of [[Buddhism]].</ref>
In other words, "romantic" has both the connotations of [[courtly love]] and urgent, mutual physical desire, or both spirituality and superficiality. A parallel division occurs in marriage, where sexual relations prepare for and harmonize with later responsibilities.<ref> see [[Alex Comfort]].</ref> In marriage this combination is considered potentially harmonious, whereas in romance taken by itself the role of spirituality tends to be discordant. The synonymous "erotic" has a more unequivocal connotation. Hence romantic love is problematic, raising the question how much spirituality is desired or necessary, and this lends itself to tragedy, while marriage tends to be dramatically comic (see [[altruism]]).
==Romance Within the Relationship==
Romantic love is, however, also a relative term, that distinguishes moments and situations within a relationship. There is often, initially, more emphasis on the emotions than on physical pleasure. Romantic love generally involves a mix of emotional and sexual desire for another as a [[person]], but within the context of a relationship or marriage it means a temporary freeing or optimizing of intimacy, either in a particularly luxurious manner (or the opposite as in the "natural"), or perhaps in greater sprituality, irony, or peril to the relationship.
The boundary between romance and marriage has become complicated but, in general, child-rearing is counter to certain fundamental features of romantic love, such as its transitory and independent quality.
But despite its primordial implication romantic love tends to develop in parallel with free society and the liberation of mankind. It involves a reciprocity of the sexes that appears in the ancient world perhaps primarily in myth (where it is in fact often the subject of tragedy, for example in the myths of [[Theseus]] and [[Atalanta]]). Noteworthy female freedom or power was then the exception rather than the rule, though this is a matter of speculation and debate.<ref>Cf. Hegel's Philosophy of History, or womenintheancientworld.com.</ref> At the same time Christianity has had another effect on romance, by asserting the spirituality of marriage.<ref>Catechism of the Catholic Church</ref> This is at least slightly ironic, since religion is the origin of much liberation and emancipation.
Romantic love and [[marriage]], and the conflict between the two, are topics in [[philosophy]], theology, and ethics. A pure form of love or eros is the topic of the [[Symposium]] of Plato, and it is important in the [[Phaedrus]] and [[Republic]]. With respect to problems and conflicts about love, the plays of [[Shakespeare]] are paramount. Later modern philosophers such as [[La Rochefoucauld]], [[Hume]] and [[Rousseau]] also focused on [[morality]], but desire was central to French thought, and Hume himself tended to adopt a French worldview and temperament. Desire in this milieu meant a very general idea termed "the passions," and this general interest was distinct from the contemporary idea of "passionate" now equated with "romantic." Love was a central topic again in the subsequent movement of [[Romanticism]], which focused on such things as absorption in nature and the [[absolute]], as well as [[Platonic]] and unrequited love in German philosophy and literature.
There is current debate between the popular mimetic desire theory of [[Rene Girard]] and the views of some [[feminists]], such as [[Toril Moi]],<ref>The Missing Mother: The Oedipal Rivalries of René Girard. Toril Moi, Diacritics Vol. 12, No. 2, Cherchez la Femme Feminist Critique/Feminine Text (Summer, 1982), pp. 21-31</ref> who argue that it does not account for the woman as inherently desired.
Other philosophers and authors interested in the nature of love are [[Jane Austen]], [[Stendhal]], [[Schopenhauer]], [[Kierkegaard]], [[George Meredith]], [[Leo Tolstoy]], [[Nietzsche]], [[Proust]], [[D.H. Lawrence]], [[Freud]], [[Sartre]], [[de Beauvoir]], [[Hemingway]], [[Henry Miller]], [[Deleuze]], and [[Alan Soble]].
Properties of romantic love include these:
* It cannot be easily controlled.
* It is not overtly (initially at least) predicated on a desire for sex as a physical act.
* If requited, it may be the basis for lifelong commitment.
==See also==
* [[Biological Attraction]]
* [[Courtship]]
* [[Hug]]
* [[Kiss]]
* [[Marriage]]
* [[Romance novel]]s
* [[Courtly love]]
* [[Erotomania]]
* [[Erotophobia]]
* [[Florence Nightingale Effect]]
* [[The Four Loves]]
* [[Limerence]]
* [[Love-shyness]]
* [[Personal relationship]]
* [[Romanticism]]
* [[Valentine's Day]]
* [[Romantic friendship]]
==References==
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* Denis de Rougemont, ''Love in the Western World.'' Pantheon Books, 1956.
* [[Francesco Alberoni]], ''Falling in love'', New York, Random House, 1983.
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