Wikipedia:A nice cup of tea and a sit down

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A nice cup of tea and a sit down is a chance to declare publicly what you appreciate about other members of the community or their contributions. As Thumper's mother said: If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. That rather idealistic concept is the fundamental rule on this page. The goal is to create goodwill and perhaps assist the dispute resolution processes that occurs on other pages – or, if we're lucky, avoid disputes at all.

Of course, this page should not replace complimenting people directly on their talk pages, or on article talk pages. A nice cup of tea and a sit down is for when things have gone beyond that, and there is a need for some more formal and serious niceness.

If you get the urge to say something like "I think that such-and-such has worked really hard on Wikipedia, but...", you should stop there. The rule of thumb when making a compliment is to "stop at the but/however/although". Just the complimentary part, please.

When you're done pouring, you may want to leave the {{tea}} template on their talk page, so they know that their tea is ready.

What A nice cup of tea and a sit down is for

Saying nice things about other contributors, especially those with whom you are currently having problems.
Publicly declaring what you like about a person or their contributions.
Directing people to, when disagreements on other pages get heated.

What A nice cup of tea and a sit down is not for

Dispute resolution.
Mediation or arbitration.
Arguing.
Anything that is not 100% positive.

Okay, the pot is brewing. Milk? Sugar?

2005

Petaholmes is doing a great job maintaining the Did you know? template every day. violet/riga (t) 21:48, 10 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

I'd like to start things off with kudos to DocendoDiscimus, who has—quietly and without fanfare—amassed over 5000 article-namespace edits, all in the two months he's been here. He is systematically going over thousands of business- and finance-related articles, improving each and every one of them. Keep up the good work! Owen× ☎ 21:51, 10 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

A huge compliment to SlimVirgin for somehow managing to not let all the accumalating stress get to her. Most people would have ran off after going through what she's been through. R e dwolf24 (talk) 04:43, 11 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

To those who consistently vote to delete articles on high schools and/or middle schools: I realize that the reason why you feel strongly about the whole thing is the same reason why I do — we care about Wikipedia and want what we think is best for it. I'm hoping that sometime we can come to the middle and achieve some non-duality, so here's a cup of reconciliation. Jacqui^★ 06:07, 11 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

To User:Vitalyb for making Template:Satanism into a sexy little infobox. ♠PMC♠ 01:07, 27 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

I've been a wikipedian for a little over a year now, and it still constantly amazes me how well it works. Sure, there are occasional blow-ups and vandals and such, but the loving maintenance of an astounding group of volunteers have made this dream into a reality. To quote Young Mr. Grace, "you've all done very well!" Grutness...wha? 09:50, 28 November 2005 (UTC)[reply]

You know, I really think Gateman1997 is doing a very noble thing pursuing his cause to get List of Caucasian Americans un-speedied. Cernen 15:09, 19 December 2005 (UTC)[reply]

Happy Christmas and everything else, everyone! I'm very much glad to see Wikipedia is functioning, and the fundraiser is doing well. I hope you all have nice holidays. —MESSEDROCKER (talk) 00:10, 25 December 2005 (UTC)[reply]

I'd like to thank User:FrancisTyers for his kind and efficient transformation of my first first draft and for making me feel welcome at Wikipedia. The whole project is an extraordinary affirmation of the human spirit. Amazing. Puffball 22:22, 26 December 2005 (UTC)[reply]

January 2006

I'd like to thank Thunderbrand because even though I'm a newcomer, and made a totally srewed over mistake and almost destroyed an article in which he spent the utmost care in, he calmly explained to me what I did wrong and fixed everything. Go Thunder! (dee 04:46, 5 January 2006 (UTC))[reply]

To Dismas for helping me not look like an incompetent boob on my user page for great justice! Cernen Xanthine Katrena 10:20, 18 January 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Matt Crypto was ridiculously good at being able to hold his temper at another user over what became (as I saw it) an increasingly frustrating debate in which the user continually failed to assume good faith. I was close to dropping any pretense of civility on the users talk page, but upon reading an entry by matt, realised that such behaivor would be fruitless. Cheers.--jfg284 ^{you were saying?} 01:41, 21 January 2006 (UTC)[reply]

User:Flcelloguy is mentoring one of wikipedias most difficult editors (who i wont name here). its a hard and thankless task. i cant make it less hard, but i can make it less thankless here... thanks Flcelloguy :) BL kiss the lizard 03:22, 21 January 2006 (UTC)[reply]

February 2006

User:Ambi has written many excellent and interesting articles, such as Richmond railway station, Melbourne. Good work. JesseW, the juggling janitor 02:49, 5 February 2006 (UTC)

#wikipedia is most friendly and responsive place on the internet. thanks Spencerk 09:25, 12 February 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Knowledge Seeker দ is one of the kindest people imaginable. For an example of superhuman politeness and restraint, have a look at User talk:Knowledge Seeker#EXCUSE ME.21. I wish to remain anonymous to spare his embarrassment.

Silence has poured oil on troubled waters recently with patience, wisdom, and erudition, in two recent but unrelated high-stress areas. Many thanks. Herostratus 15:54, 25 February 2006 (UTC)[reply]

March 2006

All the people who wanted to downplay the fact that depleted uranium causes Gulf War syndrome have good qualities. --James S. 05:24, 17 March 2006 (UTC)[reply]

I love you! 'Who?' I hear you ask. Well, you! All of you! No, I'm not really kinky. No, I'm not hopelessly unfaithful. I am, in fact, just hopelessly naïve, and like telling people how much they kick ass.

Thanks to User:Iantresman for being persistent but affable in supporting dissemination of fringe ideas. zowie 18:33, 24 March 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Thanks to TheKMan for unknowingly leading me to this page where I cooled off after a heated discussion a few minutes ago. Rosa 07:23, 25 March 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Evrik, believe it or not, I do understand what you were trying to do with the PUA's. Thank you being interested in the welfare of Wikipedia.Rosa 20:24, 25 March 2006 (UTC)[reply]
- Thanks. evrik 20:41, 31 March 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Sam Spade's dedication to Wikipedia is truly astounding. Kudos! --Ashenai 00:07, 27 March 2006 (UTC)[reply]

April 2006

The users who want to remove all references to War crimes from the Slobodan Milošević article simply because he died before he could be convicted surely have positive qualities as well. savidan^{(talk) (e@)} 22:46, 1 April 2006 (UTC)[reply]

The Portal:Portugal is more than one month old, thanks to Joaopais and all the others (excluding me). By now it is showing delays in the updating of the data, after all, it's Portugal! Next step to make it the most realistic page in wikipedia:

Try to make it exceed the budget by 1000%... the good Portuguese way. Afonso Silva 23:48, 3 April 2006 (UTC)[reply]

I'd like to thank everyone at #vandalism-en-wp for being nothing but welcoming and helpful to newcomers; hats off to you all. T. J. Day 14:44, 15 April 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Even though a few of us have been struggling with 999 recently, this user has made some fine edits, has great knowledge of Wikipedia, and is clearly dedicated to improving all the Thelema-related articles. When the "good-faith" and "compromise" functions are switched on, articles tend to improve, as we've all been showing. Frater5 17:03, 24 April 2006 (UTC)[reply]

I think it's time all the editors of Charles Whitman had a well-deserved cup of tea, for comrades Jareha, Katefan0, Chesschamp21, Johntex, Woohookitty and everybody else. The article is a good example of a variety of Wikipedia editors working together, through agreement and disagreement, to make the article great over the past 6 months - all while keeping their cool through continued trolling. For all you do, this bud's for you. Sherurcij ^{(talk) (Terrorist Wikiproject)} 00:07, 27 April 2006 (UTC)[reply]

May 2006

I think EVERYONE who has contributed to any part of Wikipedia and/or the Wikimedia foundation should sit down and have a nice cup of tea for expanding, even if just a little bit, how far human knowleage can go if we all put our heads together. Congrats everyone! Spyco 05:43, 5 May 2006 (UTC)[reply]

I had a very enjoyable experience a moment or two ago. See, I created the article matkot, which is still a stub, but nonetheless... having quoted a resource from a travel guide to Israel (don't worry, I'll cite it as soon as I get my hands on a copy again) I was then re-quoted by national newspaper HaAretz.. see this page. Isn't that nice :-) Matthew Platts 16:19, 9 May 2006 (UTC)[reply]

I usually have rotten days over here where I reside, but not today. I just completed expanding and referencing Zero (Mega Man) and Mega Man X (character) (with proper citations even!) after they failed GA status about a month ago. Why, I even encountered the Keiji Inafune article on a tour of the wiki and greatly expanded that as well. I feel quite optimistic about the latter two, so I'll re-summit them for GA status. And if they don't make it, I can always make another attempt. -Zero^Talk 17:07, 9 May 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Just another comment. I think praise should be offered to The Land, The JPS and Xezbeth for always being consistently fantastic. Matthew Platts 10:32, 10 May 2006 (UTC)[reply]

June 2006

I want to keep the trend of having compliments every month, so here's my compliment: PHAEDRIAL: You are a very kind and polite contribu-TOR. When I sent you that e-mail, you replied in such an enthusiastic way that I would have never expected. Please run for adminship so I can support you. —THIS IS MESSED OCKER (TALK) 04:14, 26 June 2006 (UTC)[reply]

July 2006

My thanks and appreciation to all the editors who have been working on Democratic Underground who came together, despite their vast differences of opinion, to achieve and to honor community consensus and to end the disputes on the article. Well done, everyone -- that's how Wikipedia should work! - CheNuevara 20:50, 19 July 2006 (UTC)[reply]

The credit goes mainly to you, Che, for bringing the warring parties together and acting as a, well, voice of reason. VoiceOfReason 21:26, 19 July 2006 (UTC)[reply]

I would just like to thank the good people of Wikipedia for making me feel welcome after a very, very long absence. I promise to pull more weight around here from now on. Jacqui ^★ 18:17, 28 July 2006 (UTC)[reply]

August 2006

To those with album articles on their watchlists: I'm sorry my bot is flooding up your watchlist, and thank you for not yelling at me about it. The pain will be over soon enough (by which I mean in slightly over 12 hours). —this is messedrocker (talk) 08:44, 8 August 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Xmeghanx: Media's Influence on Homosexual Perception is good work. --♥ «Charles A. L.» 18:22, 19 August 2006 (UTC)[reply]

September 2006

To Robert K S: You are doing a fine job on the Jeopardy! article. Truly, you are an expert among experts. --Aussie Evil 22:11, 11 September 2006 (UTC)[reply]

To Longhair: Your work in helping with odd problems is appreciated SatuSuro 13:33, 13 September 2006 (UTC)[reply]

To Seldumonde for being very understanding and helpful when I thoughtlessly moved a page I probably shouldn't have. Quaerere 20:23, 15 September 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Tangotango for helping me through cross-namespace redirection fixes. Auroranorth, 15 September 2006.

Brian1979 for vandal fighting. Kaldari 06:11, 18 September 2006 (UTC)[reply]

MER-C; helps remove obsolete articles, vandal fighting.--Andeh 15:19, 18 September 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Ryulong; serial vandal fighter.--Andeh 15:19, 18 September 2006 (UTC)[reply]

CP\M for numerous contributions to WP:TES --Niroht 00:47, 19 September 2006 (UTC)[reply]

I already gave a barnstar, but I should really mention User:Shinmawa for their excellent AFC wizard. More of these should be made. - Mgm|^(talk) 12:53, 20 September 2006 (UTC)[reply]

October 2006

Bravada for being most professional, courteous and civil editors as well as continously editing with the Wikipedia's best intrests at heart. Signature^brendel 06:16, 7 October 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Uncle G for having nice things to say to me on my talk page. He's been very encouraging, and I appreciate that. --Jayron32 06:40, 13 October 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Everyone who are good people here, for being such great people! Moneyman (guest) 9:52 October 29 2006

November 2006

I'd like to thank all the WikiGnomes and WikiFaeries that worked on Hallowe'en, even though it was their night off. Robnpov 01:17, 1 November 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Mais Oui! puts forth a tireless effort to improve Wikipedia's coverage of Scotland and Scottish topics. Thank you, Mais Oui!. File:Icons-flag-scotland.png Canæn File:Icons-flag-scotland.png 05:52, 1 November 2006 (UTC)[reply]

I'd like to thank all the Wikipedians who have kept this running. Sharkface217 20:59, 6 November 2006 (UTC)[reply]
- Amen to that, Sharkface217. -HuBmaN!!!! 16:35, 18 November 2006 (UTC)[reply]

SlimVirgin, Thatcher131, and Vic226 deserve praise for rightfully putting an unregistered anti-Semite in his/her place on reguards to the AMIA bombing. --GHcool 01:24, 11 November 2006 (UTC)[reply]

I would like to thank Daniel Olsen for adopting me and helping me through a minor technical mystery (to me, anyway), and helping me find projects that interest me. Marialadouce | parlami 21:04, 12 November 2006 (UTC)[reply]

Even though User:Thryduulf and I are on opposite sides of a contentious issue right now, at an unrelated place he gave me a nice compliment on my closing of an AfD. That shows real class and deserves a lovely cup of tea. Herostratus 23:44, 13 November 2006 (UTC)[reply]

I wish to unite Esperanzians and Non-Esperanzians, Pro-Esperanza and Anti-Esperanza, together for the encyclopedia. I hope that the MFD does not tear the community apart, and I wish goodwill for all contributors. If you are hurt by Esperanza's potential fate, please don't leave over it. That would be antithetical to your mission: keeping everyone together. Please stay for the encyclopedia's sake. ★MESSEDROCKER★ 01:49, 15 November 2006 (UTC)[reply]
- Messedrocker, these comments are both reasonable and kind, both constructive and sincere. Have a cup of your own tea, friend: this is how all Wikipedians should strive to be. - Che Nuevara 18:33, 15 November 2006 (UTC)[reply]

December 2006

I'd like to thank Shakirfan for his work on Shah Rukh Khan, making many sensible edits. Ekantik 19:46, 5 December 2006 (UTC)[reply]
I would like to thank all of the Wikipedians who fight against the constant vandalization of articles. Rick 19:42, 6 December 2006 (UTC)[reply]
I would like to thank that new guy on the reference desk whose name I can never spell right for helping me re-learn my role. Cernen Xanthine Katrena 17:18, 12 December 2006 (UTC)[reply]
I'd like to thank Merbabu for turning what was becoming an edit war into a productive collaboration. —ShadowHalo 19:29, 13 December 2006 (UTC)[reply]
I'd like to thank Gungadin for her pictures! Trampikey ^{(talk to me)(contribs)} 19:59, 17 December 2006 (UTC)[reply]
I would like to wish everyone a good day! Especially wossi & Kitia!
I just got myself a nice cup of tea and would like to wish you all a Happy New Year in advance, since I'll be on wikibreak. HAPPY NEW YEAR! Mtijn 22:33, 30 December 2006 (UTC)[reply]
Good job and hats off to all who participate in the Wikipedia:Reference_desk. This is an excellent resource and your participation is noteworthy and commendable. dr.ef.tymac 03:17, 31 December 2006 (UTC)[reply]

January 2007

HAPPY NEW YEAR! Wikipedia, please stay classy, kick ass, and fight crime in 2007. ★MESSED ROCKER★ 05:16, 1 January 2007 (UTC)[reply]
Over the last year, I let off a lot of steam in regards to sourcing of articles and just plain Rambled on deletion debates. To everyone annoyed about that, I'm just saying I'm sorry. I try to seek compromises but sometimes I'm just plain dumb. Apologies to everyone whose time I've wasted by making them read mountains of stupid rambling. Sorry, it's a really annoying habit that I just can't shake... [Eh, hit save when I was supposed to hit preview.] Anyway, I still wish to compliment everyone who demands accurate sourcing and all; I only disagree with the source paranoia that seems to be prevalent these days. I believe sourcing and accuracy is important. --wwwwolf (barks/growls) 13:21, 2 January 2007 (UTC)[reply]
I've only just started editing Wikipedia heavily. At first, I thought the level of vandalism was frankly depressing - but now I see that for every vandal, there are two great editors to revert it. Great job folks! Angus Lepper 00:26, 6 January 2007 (UTC)[reply]
I copied Nearly Headless Nick's user header and made it my own on my user page. I wouldn't have been able to do it without looking at NHN's example. —Malber (talk • contribs) 14:12, 15 January 2007 (UTC)[reply]
Old-fashioned edit counter seems to be working again. I just refound it. The ikiroid (talk·desk·Advise me) 03:14, 17 January 2007 (UTC)[reply]

That is still not as accurate as wannabe_kate; it still has a huge gap of lag time. Vic226_(chat) 02:23, 24 January 2007 (UTC)[reply]

Can't stand tea !! Peterkirchem 13:58, 26 January 2007 (UTC)[reply]

I just wanted to say kudos to everyone for working so well together to improve some problematic sections in the Robert P. Casey article. I think it's getting closer to good article status, and I'm looking forward to continuing to work with everyone on it. --JaimeLesMaths ^(talk!edits) 06:28, 30 January 2007 (UTC)[reply]

Nateland shows a great passion for the causes he believes in, and an intense willingness to improve Wikipedia. --Illuminato 08:01, 30 January 2007 (UTC)[reply]